Wednesday, 29 March 2017

Stop worrying direct latch breastfeeding mummy!

I used to always worry about her not getting enough milk too. I think as a Mum it is natural for you to keep worrying whether she is direct latch or on bottle.

I know two mummies who each have two babies. Firstborn bottle feed but slightly below average size. Their Second baby direct latch super Big chubby baby.

As a FTM, I am constantly worried about my baby's weight even until now she is mainly on solids.

I worry whether she has sufficient milk from direct latch:
-when her percentile gradually dropped from newborn of 75 percentile to now maintain at above 25 percentile,
- when she fuss at breast
- when my mil says her thighs super skinny bcos i drink too much water
- when my period returns
- when she stop STTN and keep waking up to latch

However, I try to constantly remind myself that every baby is different, some are just smaller size and that my baby is very active. If they are hungry or discomfort, they will just wake up more frequently to nurse. As long as there is no sudden major drop in weight percentile or diapers too few and that my baby is meeting the milestones, I should always believe in my child and myself.

Friday, 29 July 2016

A letter to myself as a FTM

Mummy, u are doing well! Stop blaming yourself for her eczema, her constipation, her cold or everytime she knocks her head while crawling.

Mummy, stop being a perfectionist and wish to stick to one standard way or any theory of upbringing a child. There are traditional ways, there are theories, there are research, there are 101 creams for eczema be it steroid or non-steroid. There are 101 ways of feeding a child solid food be it traditional porridge or blw. Depending on circumstances, every child will be "best" suit for different method at every different stage. Be open minded, there is no best method actually, babies will grow up somehow. Help her to make the "best" decision everyday every moment and believe it is the best because to her, you are her best mum and you are the best. Trust yourself, Trust her! Be confident in whatever method you choose. Give yourself and her sometime to try but be flexible to change.

You are learning too. There is no perfect solution to upbringing of a child. It is trial and error. There is no "if". If someone tells you that you have done wrongly, don't blame yourself. There is no right or wrong. Depending on the circumstances, you have made the "best" decision and you know it.

She is your priority but you need to always maintain a balance too. You need
your sleep so that you can help her make the "best" decision. You need your own time and time to reflect and remind yourself you have done well.

Just like breastfeeding, you managed to breastfeed her almost 9 months. You know that she has grown well bcos of your milk. Stop questioning yourself over this or any other things as you can't have "if". Maybe you will do a different way for your second child. But for this, stop regretting. You know you have tried to make the best decision and you are a First Time Mum and you have done well. There is nothing to compare.

You have done well bcos you are her Mum.

Tuesday, 22 March 2016

4.5 month to 5th month baby cranky.

Just when I thought i managed to pass through all major obstacles (wonder weeks, growth spurt and sleep regression), bb started to be cranky again.

At 4.5month, U are drooling, your whole hand full of saliva and biting toys and our shoulders. You nursed for more than 45mins but woke up rubbing your ears when I put you on bed. A few days later, you refused to be nursed and arched your back and cried loudly. You woke up crying loudly during naps. You were cranky. I thought u were teething. But after waiting for two weeks plus, almost three weeks, you drooled lesser but still continued to put your hand in your mouth. But still, no visible signs of any tooth growing.

Thinking that you were teething, i gave you the teether, at times it seems to work. You nursed peacefully after playing with the teether for 15 mins. Or is it because you were not hungry or you were just too tired? So after 15 mins later, you succumbed to my breast.

Sometimes, i had to rely on the kokadi baby carrier to babywear you to sleep. Quite a few times it seems to work.

In short, your routine is all gone! You refused to nap at times despite super tired. Sometimes i thought is because i brought you out that's why you were overstimulated. But sometimes we were at home, the whole day, and you still refuse to nap and become cranky.

At night, you latched very long and on both sides. You been sleeping better at night compared to the 3rd month. But would cry or lift up your legs repeatedly in the middle of the night and then dozed off back to sleep.

Well, or is this still the four month sleep regression? Last week, you were quite okay already... haiz...i thought the four month sleep regression is over? And you almost coming to 5th month... but they say the fourth moNth sleep regression can be from 3.5th month to 5th month. Except for about two weeks of peacefulness, most of the days from 3.5month till now 5th month 1week, you seem to be rather cranky.

Well, but you starting to smile and laugh and play alot. It seems that you have your own personality now and trying to learn to express yourself by crying out loudly. (Wonder week said that you kNow how to refuse breast! Yes you do but can you do it in a more gentle way instead of screaming? Okay, i'm scared liao so i learnt my lesson and try not to insist you nursed. But sometimes, i'm just so scared that you would be hungry or too tired. And to confess, mummy is tired at times and wish that you can quicky doze off the way you used to. )

And perhaps, you are learning how to soothe yourself to sleep. You seem to become a light sleeper. (Well, the 4th month sleep regression said you trying to change from infant sleep pattern to adult way and also will nap less. We adults also flip and toss while we sleep, and some adults also talk in their sleep. So maybe that's why you sometimes will wake up in the middle of the night. Perhaps, you really don't need so much naps already and i shouldn't force you.)

Well well, mummy is always trying to guess what is wrong, with the hope that knowing it is phase only or anything i can do to help you.  Guess many mummies are facing the same issue.

Anyway, mummy loves you. And that when you were cranky, daddy would help out by carrying you or hold you little hand while i nursed you. It makes me love your daddy even more.

Oh btw, today is 5th month 1 week (22.5th week). And your new wonder week begins! Faint! Haha.

After writing my blog, i saw this article being shared on facebook! It explains why bb is cranky!

Tuesday, 1 March 2016

Why I choose kokadi (kkd)

I joined the babywearing singapore Facebook and I realised the popular brands for soft structured carrier are Tula, kokadi flip, ergobaby, Manduca and Boba 4G.

You may wish to click this link for a comparison of Kokadi Flip, Manduca and Tula.

And this link for comparison for Manduca, Tula and Boba 3G. (Note that I think this Singapore retail shop sells kkd wrap but not kkd flip!)

This link is for comparison for Tula, Boba 4G, ergobaby and babybjorn.

I already had a sg50 sling and a hand- down babybjorn.

Review of SG50 sling
SG50 is a sling and it keeps moving on my shoulder. Moreover, it is more suitable for bigger sized parents and babies. I already tried to reduce the strap length to the shortest length but it was still very loose. Baby could slip out if I never pull enough cloth under her buttock. This is a useful YouTube on how to wear SG50 sling. I used my SG50 sling maybe 5 times but always adjusting and adjusting the cloth. I also hated to have to carry baby over the shoulder in order to wear SG50 sling.

Review of old version babybjorn
I think my babybjorn is the older version that is not ergonomic. Plus it can be used only when baby is at least 6 kg. And I hated (once again) I had to carry baby high up and slot her legs into the holes in order to wear her. And most importantly, my baby seemed to hate it because everytime we put her in, she would cry! ( Ok, maybe I was too violent when struggling to make her legs go into the holes or she was not in the right mood?)

Why I choose soft structured carrier (SSD)

- Very easy to use.

My friend showed me how she wore her Tula, kkd and Manduca and I was shocked at how easy they were compared to my SG50 sling and babybjorn:

1) Clip the big buckle to your waist (like how you wear a belt and then twist the carrier to your back)
2) Sit down on a chair or sofa or bed with the "hanging cloth" on your lap
3) place baby lying face up on top of the cloth on your lap
4) wear the two straps up like how you wear a haversack bag (imagine front carry a haversackbag)
5) click the upper security clip located below the back of your neck so that the two straps don't move.

- light and can be rolled up and kept in the diaper bag

Why I choose kkd flip?

1) Kkd flip is thin and airy so suitable for our horrible hot Singapore weather. Most importantly, it doesn't need a infant insert. Most people would start to babywear perhaps after baby about two months old and baby would be like 4 to 5kg and legs are not long enough for most carrier if without insert.

2) The web width is adjustable to fit baby from newborn (3.5kg) and hence it doesn't need an infant insert. Web width is the part where determines the spread of your baby legs.

(See picture below. The 40cm ruler shows that the maximum web width is about 42cm. You can easily adjust the size of the web width according to the size of your baby so that your baby is seated knee to knee.)

3) The shoulder straps are adjustable such that it is suitable for short people like me (1.52m) and tall guys like hubby (1.76m). For thin girls (not me, sob), you will be glad to know that the length of waist clip can be adjusted and suitable for 22 to 42 inches.

You may wish to look at item 9 of the FAQs of fluffmail for the detailed specifications.

4)It can also be used for breastfeeding. My first attempt at home to try to breastfeed using kkd was a failure as I couldn't adjust it low enough. Next time round, I shall try to loosen the waist belt so that I can lower it further.

(It was only my second time wearing kkd and Baby fell asleep in the kkd and woke up feeling super hungry. So I was super clumsy and unfamiliar with the straps. I went to lower both sides instead of only the side I was supposed to latch and I was sitting on my bed...)

You may wish to click this link stating the instructions on how to breastfeed with a carrier.

Things I dislike about kkd flip
1) I think there are no retail shop in Singapore selling kkd flip. So I couldn't try! Lucky, I got a friend willing to let me try hers. But still, I didn't dare to adjust her "default" settings she already adjusted for herself and her baby. And I was afraid that if I buy online, I don't know how to adjust correctly. But I am glad that kkd flip comes with a detailed clear manual!

Note that there is one shop at bishan selling kkd wrap but kkd flip and kkd wrap are different!

You may wish to join the Singapore babywearing facebook group and attend their gatherings to try out kkd flip!

2) I feel that the height of the panel is abit short at 34cm. My girl is tall. It is stated that kkd flip can withstand baby weight until baby is about 18 months, 15kg. I realised other carriers like Manduca can withstand until 20kg.

3) The security back clip can be abit difficult to fasten. Ok, my hubby doesn't have a problem with that. My hands are short and not flexible to reach it at times. I been practicing and getting the hang out of it. But not to worry too much about this as there are ways to overcome this small problem.

Review of seller fluff mail
I ordered kkd flip through fluff mail using credit card at 11am on Monday. I chose the Mr Wunderland at $259 and the drool pads (strap protector) at $28. I received confirmation email and payment email immediately.

At about 11.15am(!!!), I received two SMS stating that it would be delivered between 6pm to 10pm on the same day. The first SMS was a computer generated SMS which provided the tracking URL. When clicked, it showed the name, contact number and even a picture of the delivery guy and status of the delivery! The second SMS was sent by fluff mail staff asking if anybody would be at home. I failed to notice the second SMS and I did not reply. At 12plus, another SMS came asking me to confirm if there would be anyone at home to receive the kkd and that if there isn't, they would be happy to rearrange another date for me. I quickly replied the SMS and fluff mail replied "Great, we will proceed with the delivery. Happy babywearing!". At 5pm, I received my kkd carrier and the drool pads.

In short, super happy with their service - efficient and polite.

Thursday, 18 February 2016

Wonder week 15th to 16th week? 4th month sleep regression? 3rd month growth spurt? Changing to Graco baby cot?

Been looking forward to this wonder week!

It felt tiring but exciting at the same time!

This wonder week started off with Bb refusing to be carried in cradle hold position when we tried to coax her to sleep. She would shout and struggle to pull herself up.

She smiled alot whenever we played with her but could start wailing the next moment.

She refused to take naps although she looked tired. She also fussed alot at the breasts, perhaps she was too tired. She also latched for more than an hour at times.

Her eyes brightened up and she smiled at times when I showed her the toys. She could hold and play with her cubic toy (see picture at bottom of page). Her hands would grab any cloth materials near her eg. Swaddle, hankerchief, bib, diaper mat, waterproof sleeping mat and also the rails of her rocker.

She started to react and turn towards to the source of sound e.g. the rattle or when we talked to her. But her "sense of direction" was still not that good. She would react but it took her quite some time to turn towards the source of the sound.

She watched my actions such as when I was drinking water or using the keys to open the door. Everything seemed to be very interesting to her. 

At night, she tossed and turned her head from left to right, followed by lifting her legs and slammed them down making loud bangs repeatedly.

Graco pack and play

The first night

It happened that we just "upgraded" to a bigger cot (Graco playpen, see picture below). The playpen was very shaky as the bassinet net only hanged loosely on the upper ends. So the first night, she was making alot of noise by repeatedly turning her head and slamming her legs down. We had to make holes and secure the four bottom corners of the bassinet to the playpen using cable tie. 

The second night onwards

The bassinet was no longer shaky but she continued to turn her head and slammed her legs down especially the first half an hour after we placed her in the playpen. Perhaps it was her way to soothe herself to sleep. 

On certain nights, I could still hear that she was tossing in her Graco playpen every 1 hour. I wonder if it is due the wonder week, the graco playpen or I have become a light sleeper.

Well, I still prefer the co-sleeper which doesn't shake at all but because it was the mini version, I had to "upgrade" it to Graco.



I realised other mummies also facing the same "problem" as me. Let's just hope it is a phase only. Well, but I still think that the Graco playpen is really "noisy" and it is disturbing my sleep...

Sunday, 14 February 2016

Valentine's day with baby

Hi bb,

This post is for u. Want u to know u got a number 1 daddy.

Today is Valentine's day. This is the best Valentine's day I had so far even though there are no flowers or presents given by daddy.

We didn't celebrate Valentine's day at any restaurant. It was simple. After a simple meal at Star Vista, we went back to our lovely woodlands home. We haven't been back for more than 1 month.

It was a pleasant surprise. Daddy had took a half day leave two days ago just to come to woodlands house for "spring cleaning". He spent hours cleaning the house for YOU.

We only stayed for 1 night but I was super happy. Daddy spent the whole day playing with you (most of the time helping you to change diapers! Haha. You poo alot u know? Many times are explosives kind and Daddy had to wash your pants).

I had my best shower too. Because I get to hear the voices of you and daddy playing/"arguing" while I bathe.

I love you daddy and I love you bb. Hope that you are having a sweet dream now. Daddy is holding you in his arms and don't dare to move a single inch as he is afraid that you will wake up. Think you had alot of fun and joy for your first Valentine's Day. Looking forward to celebrating with both of you the next Valentine's Day!

P.S you just poo again!

Monday, 1 February 2016

Child Vaccination (Newborn immunisation at hospital and immunisation at polyclinic)

Thomson Medical Centre (Hospital)
2nd day: BCG on left buttock and 1st dose of Hept B on right thigh

Making the first appointment for polyclinic

Called Jurong polyclinic to make appointment in week 3. Register child via phone as child is under 12 years old, have to be under mother's name. And, since I had never been to polyclinic before, I also had to register myself via phone. Was told the vaccination would be Hept b at 1 month old and each vaccination should be at least 1 month apart. The earlier dates were being fully booked and was appointed to go at 6th week. 

Summary for polyclinic vaccination 

First visit (Hept B, 1st month): To bring birth certificate, mother's IC and health booklet for verification during the first visit. Do not need to make any payment for this round as Hept B vaccinations are fully subsidized by the government. We were advised by the nursing staff that Hept B will not trigger fever. 

Second visit (PCV, 5 in 1 and Rotavirus, 3rd month) :To bring health booklet, Birth certificate and CDA ATM card. Birth certificate required to apply to make payment through baby's medisave ($150) for PCV. Baby's CDA ATM card (and of course memorise the pin number) required to make payment of $90 for rotavirus if you prefer to use baby' CDA to pay. PCV and 5 in 1 may trigger fever anytime during the first two days. Polyclinic would give  a bottle of paracetamol and a syringe for you to bring home. Also, do not feed your baby half an hour before and after taking rotavirus in case she pukes out the medicine together with the milk.

Please see picture at end of page for the pricing of the various vaccinations.

Tip 1: photocopy baby's birth cert and place it inside the health booklet.

Jurong polyclinic 
1st month vaccination: 2nd dose of Hept B on right thigh

We arrived 30 minutes earlier than the allocated time (10.40am). Entered the main door and keyed in my bb's IC number to generate a queue ticket. My queue number flashed IMMEDIATELY at the counter. At the counter, after verifying identity using IC, birth cert and health booklet, we were given another ticket with room number stated and queue number. Went up to second floor and turned right and found the room.

There were 3 kinds of rooms. The first one to enter was to measure height and weight (room 15). Second room was to measure head circumference and take the Hept b vaccination (room 16). Third room was the doctor's room to check on child's development (room 12).

Note that in the second room, for the first visit, you would be asked to complete a checklist for your child's development (page 7 of healthbooklet). You would also have to decide if you wish to take rotavirus (optional vaccine, oral not injection) for the next appointment. 1st dose of Rotavirus MUST be taken before your child is 16 weeks. The nurse would then indicate on page 64 of the healthbooklet the time frame for the next vaccination. 

After seeing the doctor at the third room, we then went back to the second room (15mins after injection), so that the nurse could check that the bleeding has stopped. 

At the payment and appointment counter, the admin staff would refer to page 64 of the health booklet to arrange with you the date for the next appointment. We did not have to make any payment for the first visit as Hept b was free.

Tip 2: As the queue at the payment and appointment could be long, you might wish to take the queue number after your vaccination but before seeing doctor.
(You can just press the queue number machine at the counter, it is okay to miss the payment queue number since they don't know who pressed it, Hehe.)
So after you see the doctor, you would not have to wait so long to make payment. 

Tip 3: Be punctual but not too early for vaccination. According to a mummy, polyclinic computer system might arrange the "latecomers" to cut your queue for vaccination as they had missed the queue number and if you were not that far off from your allocated time.  Not sure it was because of the crowd that day or I had arrived too early, the waiting time for each room was long and we left only at 12.10pm.

Tip 4: Do your "homework" before going to polyclinic.  There is child development checklist on page 9 to be completed by parents for 3rd month before my next visit. I did it before going to the polyclinic second visit so the nurse simply stamped the date and she did not have to wait for me to do the checklist. (If you don't wish to do beforehand, I still suggest you to read through as the questions are tough!)

3rd month vaccination: 1st dose of rotavirus (oral), 1st dose of PCV (right thigh), 1st dose of 5 in 1 (left thigh)

We arrived 7 Minutes before the allocated time (10.20am). Keyed in baby's Ic number in the self-help machine (first machine in the left). Given the room number and queue number. Since this is the second visit, we need not go to the counter. We then proceed to level 2 room 15. We were glad that there were only a few people waiting outside the room and we waited about 10 minutes to enter the height and weight room.

In the second room, bb was first given the rotavirus orally using a syringe. Bb seemed to be rather happy with the taste. The nurse mentioned that it was okay even if baby puked a little milk as rotavirus tended to be absorbed quickly once swallowed. Also they took into account that baby might puke milk when determining the volume to be administered. 

I was told to hold the baby in a cradle hold position. I held my baby using my left arm and my left hand would grab bb's hand while my right grab her legs. After the first injection, you should quickly switch to cradle hold your baby using your right arm so that the nurse could administer the second injection on her right thigh. 

(It took me sometime to understand what the nurse was saying when she asked me to "turn the baby". So poor baby was crying for quite a while before I finally understood the nurse's instructions and cradle hold using my right arm before she could give the second injection. The "quite a while" was only perhaps 15 seconds but still heartpain...haha). 

We were given a bottle of paracetamol and a syringe. We were supposed to give baby paracetamol if she has fever (above 37.5 degree Celsius) every 6 hourly. If fever continues for more than 24 hours or a high fever (e.g. 39 degree Celsius), we would need to bring baby to hospital A&E. 

At the payment and appointment counter, we were given the choice of paying the PCV by cash or medisave. We chose medisave and had to show her birth cert (photocopied will do) and filled up a medisave form. We paid rotavirus using her CDA account with her ATM card. 

It was about 11.30am after we made the payment. We were scheduled for second dose of 5 in 1 and second dose of rotavirus in 1 month's time. I would be updating my blog on this.

Before heading home, we went to the pharmacy at level 1 to buy a clinical armpit thermometer at $5.10 (thermometers are kept at pharmacy cashier counter).

Tip 5: weight percentile are found on page 30 to 31. I used the chart to estimate the weight of my baby when buying diapers. As I stock up my goon diapers whenever there is promotion, I needed to determine if she could still fit into small size when she is fourth month old. The nurse mentioned that the baby's weight would most likely remain more or less on the same colour line. If there is a major change ie. The weight when plotted is on another colour line, then it is a cause for concern. 

(I was quite concerned when I was told her weight had become >25%tile when previously was 50%tile. But the nurse said that when plotted, her weight was very near the blue line I.e. 50%tile and it was not a cause for concern. If you refer to the graphs, they only have 3,10,25,50,75, 90,97% and the graphs are so close to each other and it is difficult to plot accurately! Perhaps, they should use a simple software instead of pen and ruler to estimate the percentile. Ok, I used to be a maths teacher...haha)

Click to see schedule of vaccination. When referring to the schedule, do take note that DTap, IPV and Hib together are considered 5 in 1 injection. Rotavirus is not shown on the schedule and it is an optional vaccination. First dose of rotavirus is in 3rd month (before week 16) and second dose in fourth month (before week 24). You can also find the schedule in page 55 of healthbooklet.